Have you ever been speaking with a woman and felt like she wasn’t listening or interested in you?  Is this what usually happens with you when speaking with women?  Don’t worry, you’re not the only guy who has this problem.  Today I’d like to share with you a tip that will make a world of difference in your communication with not only women, but everyone you come into contact with.

The tip I am talking about is called, “Matching and Mirroring.”  Even though you may have never heard of such a concept, it will change your life starting today.

Matching and Mirroring is actually a very easy to understand concept and skill to learn.  In fact, you could even start practicing it when you finish reading this post.  When you Match and Mirror with another person, all you are doing is mimicking their unconscious physical actions.  That is to say, that you are observing their gestures, movements, etc… and recreating them with your own body.  Now I’m not sure if you know what rapport is, but if you practice this technique enough, you can even get someone’s attention from across a room with it.

However, there are somethings to beware of- Dun, Dun, Dun…  People don’t like to see someone mimicking them.  If you have had someone do it to you, it may create situations of: awkwardness, shyness, embarrassment, etc…  You must get the point by now.  These unconscious things that people do are, as we stated, unconscious.  When someone makes you aware that you are touching your nose ever so often, you will think that person is judging you or just plain making fun of you.  So in order to have this technique work for you, you have to be able be subtle.  The best possible way that I know to do this, is to forget that you are doing it.  Learn to build rapport with others through Matching and Mirroring with practice.  As with any thing else you practice enough, it will become second nature to you after awhile and you will soon forget that you are doing it.

Regardless of what research comes about, I still believe that women do talk more than men on average. Yes it is an average which does not make it true for everyone, but true for most. Just in my experience I have noticed on many occasions that women love to talk more than men in almost every type of environment. Whether it be work, bars, or other social gatherings; women are always leading most of the conversation.

You be the judge:

Study: Men Talk Just as Much as Women

Women talk three times as much as men, says study

As in any experiment, there is always error. Perhaps the fact that they chose college students in the first experiment causes different results than in the other study. Whatever the case, we will always see whatever we want to see in any experiment of this nature. As stated in the first article:

“We use our gender magnifying glass and over-generalize from that,” Mehl says. “Instead of saying that men tend to talk less and women tend to talk more, we say ‘Women always talk and men never talk.’”

However, I largely disagree with this quote from the same article:

“It puts men into the gender box, that in order to be a good male, we’d better not talk — (that) silence is golden,” Mehl says. “The stereotype puts unfortunate constraints on men and women – the idea that you can only happily be a woman if you’re talkative and you can only be happy as a man if you’re reticent. The study relieves those gender constraints.”

I was never told by my parents or even aware that women talked more until I started interacting with them on a regular basis. This paragraph seems to be taking the results and making its own conclusions.